Winston Churchill once said, "We are masters of the unsaid words, but slaves of those we let slip out."
I believe what Mr. Churchill was saying is that, isn't it better to know and be disappointed, than to not know and always wonder what could have been? I think the words left unspoken are the ones that affect the outcome of your life. There are so many opportunities each day, to show who you truly are or to hide and to hold back from what you want to say and do.
I have no doubt that we have all had questions we didn't ask, statements we didn't make or a feeling we didn't express. I am convinced that if there is a question you want to ask, you should ask it. If there is a statement you want to make, you should make it, and if there is a feeling you want to express, you should express it. And in turn, you will never have to wonder what could have been. It's as simple as that.
The obvious example is the people we never share our true feelings with. These are the people who could make us the most vulnerable. I know people who have years later felt the disappointment of knowing that the person they never said those words to or asked that question of ... would have answered in the affirmative. They can't believe how different their life might be now, if they would have just put their pride and fear aside and uttered those words or asked that question.
I said in my last column that I believe all things happen for a reason, and I stand by that statement with a caveat: that is that you have stepped up to write your half of the story and then let fate take her turn. You and you alone have the power to give fate the chance to jump in and write your entire story. I truly would never want to give anyone the chance to write my story. It's bad enough fate writes half of it, but to give her the chance to write the whole thing is something I am not prepared to let happen. My life and my story mean too much to me to ever give in because of my pride or my fear.
We have come to the end of the school year and I know that the end of this chapter in my life is bittersweet. No matter how much I look forward to a new day, the end of the year is one I reflect on: not about the things I have done, said or expressed, but about the things I still want to do, say and express.
So I guess my question is — why not now? Ask that question, make your statement and express your feelings to an old friend, a new friend, loved ones or a boyfriend/girlfriend. Tell them the words you want to say.
Remember, words left unspoken ... can most certainly rewrite our story.
— Samantha Warchol is a sophomore in psychology. She can be reached at email@example.com.